OK I think it’s time to get real here. After reading some of my previous posts, you might assume that my life is pretty well in order, that I don’t have any major struggles because I know how to avoid them with “3 ways to overcome struggles” or if I do have struggles that I know “how to put a positive spin on tough times.” You may think that I’m completely secure in who I am and when I’m not, I turn to my list of “10 reasons to be secure in yourself.” Perhaps you assume that I never get mad, frustrated, or negative and that i know all “the secrets to loving where you’re at.”
Well I hate to break it to you, but my life is not perfect and my problems aren’t instantly solved in blog post titles. In fact this week, I looked back at this past year and had to admit that it’s been a tough and at times, awful year.
Why am I sharing this?
I realize this post already sounds like it’s going to be a depressing rant which no one wants to read. However, I feel like it’s important to share this because we’ve all been in those spots where we are just over it. That being said, here are the two main reasons for this post:
Honesty is the Best Policy
I believe you have to be honest with yourself and those around you. I don’t want my readers to think that I have all the answers to everything when I don’t. One of the main things I preach in a lot of my blog posts is an alternative perspective or the importance of changing your perspective. I would like to clarify by saying that in order to change your perspective on a situation, you have to first acknowledge the situation and your current perspective as it is. You can’t make a change if you don’t believe there’s anything to change. Changing your perspective doesn’t mean pretending something is great when it’s not, by all means acknowledge your frustration and call things as they are. However, I believe that after you’ve acknowledged where you’re at, then you have a choice to make. This brings me to my next point.
Am I a hypocrite?
To be honest, there is a big part of me that doesn’t want to continue this blog right now because it feels phony. Who am I to write about balance, positivity, pushing through limitations, and following your dreams when I feel like I have no control over my life, my attitude has been awful, my body is falling apart, I find myself constantly questioning what my next step will be and how I’m going to make a living doing what I do, my patience levels have dwindled into the negatives and every day I have a meltdown about something? If you didn’t think I was a hypocrite before, now that you read that last sentence you’re debating and wondering if I’m just good at writing pretty things that I don’t actually believe. Believe me, I’ve contemplated this and then I remember reading this Henri Nouwen quote in Emily Freeman’s book A Million Little Ways:
“Nobody completely lives up to his or her own ideals and visions. But by proclaiming our ideals and visions with great conviction and great humility, we may gradually grow into the truth we speak.”
If I wait to write till I have all the answers and have mastered every problem, then I’d never write. If I stop writing because I don’t live up to my ideals, then I am choosing to give in to negativity. While vent sessions are great and giving in to negativity is a temptation I fall into quite often, negativity is exhausting, draining, and no one wants to be around it. In fact, the very reason I started this blog in the first place is because as artists we are constantly surrounded by negativity and an ounce of encouragement in a world of darkness is a breath of fresh air.
At the end of the day we’re all in the same boat. We all have ups and downs on the way to achieving what we aspire to be and do. The bottom line is I want each of you to know that I don’t have it all figured out and I’m trying to navigate life just like you. Most of what I write is meant to be a reminder and motivator to me as well because I certainly need it.
So what can you take away from this post?
- Be honest with yourself.
- Don’t wait till you have all the answers to do something you’re called to do.
- Tell it like it is-some days you just feel like throwing things and binge eating brownies-it happens. I’m working my way through finishing a batch right now.
- Find something positive to refresh you in the midst of the negative times-more on that next week.
- I may not be perfect and I may not post as regularly as I should but I will keep going because we all need positive encouragement no matter what we’re going through.
Is there something that you are just “over” dealing with in your life? Is it stopping you from reaching your full potential? If so, go ahead and admit it, and get it out so you can start the process of moving on and not letting it consume you.