Do you ever feel like your life is dictated by numbers? Perhaps that’s an odd question so let me rephrase, do you feel like life is consumed by any of the following things:
- how much money you make
- how many hours you work
- how many followers and likes you have on social media
- how many friends you have
- how much you can sell
- how many clicks your website gets
- how much production growth your company has seen in the last year
- how much is on your resume
- how many activities you’ve done
- how many jobs you have
- how much you volunteer
The list goes on and on. If you answered yes to any of these, and I know I have, then you are in the same boat as pretty much everyone on the planet.
I never realized it until this year just how much we have quantity on the throne of our lives. If we don’t put it there, you can be sure our jobs will because it seems to be the trend in life. We are a very production oriented society. I suppose there’s nothing wrong with that if you are running a huge business. The problem is we start to run our lives like we’re running a huge business. I personally find that I am so production oriented in my day to day life that I don’t have time for things that really matter.
I think that too often we sacrifice quality for quantity to the point where we don’t know what quality is anymore. I think one of the main reasons for that is the reality of the direction in which our society is heading.
I recently saw a youtube video by author and motivational speaker Simon Sinek on Milennials in the workplace. I strongly encourage you to watch it because it was very eye opening to me about the reality of our environment, upbringing, and technology and how this is all affecting our every day lives and changing the type of people that we are and the relationships that we have. However, if you don’t have time to watch it, just ask yourself the following questions:
- Look at your Facebook friends and ask yourself, of the hundreds or thousands of “friends” you have, how many of those friends have you actually talked to in the last year? In fact, how many of them do you actually even consider a true friend?
- Of all the people or businesses you follow on Instagram, how many of them do you actually truly care about?
- When you actually do have a face to face interaction with someone, how many times do you check your phone throughout?
- How many times a day do you multi-task?
- Do you feel like a difference maker or a machine at your job?
- Do you spend more time voicing your opinion on social media or do you actually act on your opinions?
- Do you have every second of your week mapped out in an endless checklist of tasks?
I’m totally guilty of a lot of these things and quite frankly I’m sick of it. I want real friends, real interactions. I want my money, time, and energy to go toward things that really matter. I want a quality life-in fact I’m craving that and I think that most people are craving that as well, they just don’t know how to get there.
When you experience something of quality, you typically have no desire to go back to something that seems fake. As you may know, I took a well needed vacation that involved the two things that refresh me the most-quality time with friends and quality time alone. Honestly, I needed that trip to remind me what quality was because for a while my life just got lost in the shuffle of reality and merely existing.
Simple things like good conversations with friends I hadn’t seen in a while, being unplugged from technology, not having an agenda, being surrounded by natural the beauty of the great outdoors, watching people amuse themselves with something other than a phone, and seeing things that inspired me and were important to me were the very reminders I needed of what a life of quality looks like.
The trip wasn’t very long, in fact it was less than a week. However, it was just enough to remind me of the kind of life I want to be living and how I want to move forward from here.
We can’t deny the world we live in. I’m not advocating that we completely eliminate technology or quit our jobs to live on a perpetual vacation. However, to continue with the Cinderella theme of the previous post, I will share this quote from the 2015 Cinderella film:
“Just because it’s what’s done, doesn’t mean it’s what should be done.”
I think we need to stop assuming that the norms of society are what’s best. I find myself constantly teetering between accepting reality but longing for something more than we’ve all settled for.
That being said I’ve decided that I want to have a life that puts quality over quantity even if it means defying conventions of a production oriented mindset. The only quantity that I’m interested in is that which comes from quality. I want this mindset to infiltrate every part of my life-finances, time, energy, career, and this website.
Truth be told, you may see me posting much less. While I am still very passionate about encouraging artists and the internet is an excellent way to get a message out to the masses, I would rather be living Artist2Artist than merely writing about it. When my time and energy is going toward a never ending website to do list in an attempt to boost numbers rather than investing in those that are right in front of me, then it’s time to scale back. I can’t tell you what a sense of freedom that realization has brought me and how much more joy I’ve had about life and relationships because of that perspective change. Sometimes taking a step back is the best way to move forward.
What inspires you? What are you passionate about?
Take some time for yourself and do something that is of true quality and meaning to you. If you’re feeling bogged down with trying to keep up and produce the numbers and quantities that you feel are running your life, then I invite you to also take a step back, maybe defy conventions of what the world is telling you to do and see what happens. I encourage you to seek the quality that leads to a truly fulfilling life.